About us
About me
Hi, welcome to Overthinkers Black Book, my name is Xin. I am 27 years old, of which I spent probably half overthinking. I probably googled every possible question that ever popped up in my head, from how penguins recognize each other in their colony to how to ask someone out. My main reasons for starting this blog are:
- I’ve found that many times, going to other people for advice isn’t such a good idea. I am an open book, but many people will judge you for certain things that are different or “quirky” about you. I found out about the hard way, so my first go-to is Google when I look for answers.
- Advice on the internet usually didn’t really help me at all. It was filled either with generic advice such as “be yourself”, or hyper-specific advice that was only tailored for a very specific audience (mainly single, young, very inexperienced men who spent most of their time online, no offence if this is you). Both weren’t useful to me.
- I made almost every mistake there was. The thing with overthinking is that it can make you swing both ways: you can spend too much time pondering what you’re going to say next, so you say nothing, or you just keep talking non-stop. I’ve done both, and it taught me a lot. In this blog, I will give you the best advice that I never received.
About this blog
On this blog, I will give you advice about everything, from love and life to everything in between. I will share practical tips on how to recognize your own behavior and that of others, and how you can change your thinking and navigate different situations.
This blog is called Overthinker’s Black Book, because I believe that you can use your overthinking to your advantage. I spent 26 years trying to do that, and I still haven’t succeeded. What you can do instead, though, is to see overthinking in a different light and use it to create new opportunities for yourself and evaluate your actions.
So, why am I qualified to write about overthinking? In summary:
- I write from personal experience. I do my own research as needed, but mainly write from my own experiences.
- I have googled a lot. I know what it’s like to look for some practical advice and not be able to find it. I have read countless Reddit threads and trust me, it hasn’t done much good.
- I overthink everything. That means, that when things go wrong (which they often do), I evaluate the situation and try to figure out where it went wrong. Because of this, I believe I can give good advice on various situations from the perspective of an overthinker, who has overthought her actions.
What kind of articles will you find on this blog?
- Dating and relationship advice: practical tips from an overthinker’s perspective on going on a first date, determining who pays, dealing with unwanted attention, and so on.
- Life advice: time management, how to balance your life, positivity and mental health.
- And more!
I hope that on this blog you’ll find the piece of advice that you’re looking for. Feel free to reach out to me through the contact form (you can find here), I’d love to hear from you!