Dating
Dating as an overthinker, don't despair! On this page, you'll find the best tips on how to survive the dating phase as an overthinker.
How to date when you’re not interested in a casual relationship?
Dating is hard enough, but what if you’re looking for a serious relationship? It can be difficult enough to navigate dating apps, first dates and texting etiquette, but it’s even more complicated when there’s a seemingly endless sea of people looking for one-night-stands, hookups, friends with benefits (FWB), polyamorous people (if you aren’t into that) or people in relationships who are outright cheating. In this article, I will share from experience what to look out for and what to avoid, with practical advice and tips. Tip 1: Know what you’re looking for It may seem like an open door, but it’s always important to think of what you want…
How to tell your date about your therapist?
When you meet someone new, it’s only natural to show the best version of yourself. As you get to know each other better, it’s natural that you get to know each other better and deeper, maybe subjects that are more difficult to talk about, come up. But how do you proceed dating someone when you have a therapist and you feel ashamed about it? When is the right time to tell your date, and how do you bring the news? In this article, I will explain the why, when, and how of telling your date about your therapist. I’ll answer the following questions: Why: why should you tell your date?…
5 good first-date ideas and 5 ideas to avoid
Planning a first date can be a daunting task. Chances are you don’t know your date that well yet, so what are good possible date ideas where you can get to know each other better and avoid awkward silences? In this article, I will list 5 date ideas you should avoid and the best 5 date ideas you can replace them with. Avoid: Walk in the park, replace with: Picnic in the park Why you shouldn’t go for walks in the park: Why a picnic in the park makes for a better date idea: Avoid: Bowling, replace with: Minigolf Reasons why bowling is a bad idea: Why you should opt…
How do I handle dating when I have anxiety? 5 tips to make dating easier
Dating can be difficult when you’re easily anxious. It’s new and uncertain and there are no clear rules. How do you prevent overthinking and making yourself crazy? In this article, I share some advice that helped me during the dating process. 1 Focus on having fun Especially in the beginning stages of dating someone, everything can be nerve-wracking. From swiping right on someone and waiting for a match to waiting for a reply to your message, to planning a first date. When you meet someone you don’t know that well, it can be difficult to know what to expect. I know it’s easier said than done, but try to relax,…
How you can decide not to be ghosted, ever
We’ve all been there: you’re texting with someone, the conversation is fun, you send a response, and suddenly, radio silence. An hour goes by, two hours, a day… how long will it last? You’re telling yourself it’s not that big of a deal, that you’re not going to check your phone every second yet you never lose your phone out of sight, immediately jumping up when you (think you) hear your phone buzz. So, here’s the tea There are a lot of ways to start here, but first things first, you’re not being ghosted in the following situations: This article specifically applies to the situation where you met someone through…
Why are the people that aren’t my type interested in me?
When you are actively dating, it’s always a challenge to find the right match. Although some people have trouble getting matches at all, others may experience the opposite problem: the people that are interested in them, aren’t their type or what they’re looking for. In this article, I will share five possible reasons why you’re not into the people that are interested in you, and what you can do about it. Reason 1: They only look at the surface Say you meet someone new at a party. They seem nice to talk to, and you have a brief chat in which you both exchange pleasantries. You think it was just…
5 reasons why it didn’t work out after a perfect date
So, you finally decided on a date with that cute person from a dating app, work, or school. You go out for coffee, drinks, or a walk in the park, and everything runs smoothly. The conversation flows, with no awkward silences, and plenty of gazing into each other’s eyes, and by the end of the date, you can’t wait to see them again. And then… they sent a text, it’s done. What happened? Reason 1: They didn’t feel physical attraction Ouch! If you watch many dating shows as I do, this is one of the most awkward rejections someone can receive on national television. But rest assured, most people in…
How do I deal with dating and texting?
Texting, it’s often a struggle when you’re dating someone. How much is too much, how can you show you’re interested and don’t come across as too eager or available? It’s often a fine line between giving the other person space or seeming careless. In this article, I’ll advise you on how to handle texting when you’re dating someone. Before the date When you haven’t met yet, or haven’t had your first date yet, it might be tempting to continue talking through text. My advice is: don’t do it. It’s easy to create an image of someone in your head when you’ve never met that person. It’s also nice to have…
Should you date multiple people at once?
It’s a debate as old as time: date multiple people at once. Is it best to stick to one person at a time, or should you have three, four, or maybe five people in rotation? In this article, I will list the pros and cons of dating multiple people at once. Pro: You keep your options open When you date multiple people at once, you create more possibilities to fall in love. First dates and second dates often don’t lead to anything more, so why limit yourself right out of the gate? If you use a dating app, it’s easier than ever to just swipe some interesting prospects and plan…
Who should pay the bill on a date?
It’s often a very telling moment during a date: when the bill arrives. Who reaches for it first, and who has their card ready? Most people have a strong preference, they either prefer paying themselves, that the other person pays, or that the bill is split. But what is the easiest way to navigate this, and what to do if it gets awkward during or after the date? In this article, I will guide you through. First things first: always be prepared to pay Before the start of your date, you should always make sure you’re prepared to pay. Check if you have enough money to pay for your date and…
