Why are the people that aren’t my type interested in me?
When you are actively dating, it’s always a challenge to find the right match. Although some people have trouble getting matches at all, others may experience the opposite problem: the people that are interested in them, aren’t their type or what they’re looking for. In this article, I will share five possible reasons why you’re not into the people that are interested in you, and what you can do about it. Reason 1: They only look at the surface Say you meet someone new at a party. They seem nice to talk to, and you have a brief chat in which you both exchange pleasantries. You think it was just…
How to reduce overthinking work when the workday is done
From when I started my first part-time job at fifteen years old, I could spend nights awake overthinking my work. I wondered whether I made a mistake somewhere if people would notice, and if it might have horrible consequences that I would be forced to face the next morning or the next week. Thankfully, these days my overthinking about work isn’t as bad as it was back then, but I still need to actively prevent myself from re-entering that negative spiral. In this article, you’ll read tips and advice on how to reduce your overthinking when the workday is over. Tip 1: Consciously end the workday When I finish working,…
How to deal with unwanted advances when you’re in a relationship in 5 steps
When you’re in a happy relationship, the last thing you want is unwanted attention from others. Sometimes, people still hit on you, despite knowing that you’re not interested because you already have a partner. In this article, you will read advice on how to best avoid awkward situations and if they arise, how to deal with them. Step 1: Be clear that you have a partner The most straightforward way to avoid any misunderstandings, it’s best to mention that you’re in a relationship as soon as possible. Try to incorporate this statement as a natural part of the conversation, most people find it offensive or pretentious if you mention…
How to balance your time when you’re an introvert
As an introvert, I know all about the struggles of balancing your energy. At work, school or almost anywhere else, the world seems dominated by extroverts who thrive in busy, loud, competitive environments. As an introvert, it’s not that I don’t like showing interest in others or spending time with friends and family, it’s just that it takes a lot of energy for me. When I have to balance my time with work, school, taking care of the house, sports and keeping in touch with my social circle, it can be quite taxing. In this article, I will advise on how to balance your energy as an introvert. Accept the…
How do I deal with dating and texting?
Texting, it’s often a struggle when you’re dating someone. How much is too much, how can you show you’re interested and don’t come across as too eager or available? It’s often a fine line between giving the other person space or seeming careless. In this article, I’ll advise you on how to handle texting when you’re dating someone. Before the date When you haven’t met yet, or haven’t had your first date yet, it might be tempting to continue talking through text. My advice is: don’t do it. It’s easy to create an image of someone in your head when you’ve never met that person. It’s also nice to have…
What is lucid dreaming and how to prevent it?
Lucid dreaming: the internet is filled with articles on how to induce lucid dreaming, or learn how to remember your dreams. Lucid dreaming is often researched, but not much is known about it. In this article, I will explain what lucid dreaming is and what you can do about it, based on my own experiences. I will answer questions such as: Please note: the contents of this article are based on my own research and personal experiences with lucid dreaming. If you experience mental health issues because of lucid dreaming, please consult a licensed psychologist or doctor. What are lucid dreams? In research, many definitions of lucid dreaming are used.…
How to set boundaries with your partner
Boundaries in a relationship, what are they, when are they reasonable and how do you discuss them with your partner? What do you do if you both disagree about a certain boundary, for example concerning planning a vacation together? In this article, I will give practical advice on how to deal with these questions regarding boundaries in a relationship. What are boundaries? A boundary is commonly described as “the limit of what someone considers to be acceptable behaviour” (source). Important features of boundaries are: So, why are boundaries important in relationships? First of all, everyone has boundaries. There are common boundaries, such as a no-cheating rule in monogamous relationships (although,…
Should you date multiple people at once?
It’s a debate as old as time: date multiple people at once. Is it best to stick to one person at a time, or should you have three, four, or maybe five people in rotation? In this article, I will list the pros and cons of dating multiple people at once. Pro: You keep your options open When you date multiple people at once, you create more possibilities to fall in love. First dates and second dates often don’t lead to anything more, so why limit yourself right out of the gate? If you use a dating app, it’s easier than ever to just swipe some interesting prospects and plan…
How to not feel overwhelmed at work in 5 steps
We probably all know the feeling, you log in on Monday, or you start working again after a vacation, and your mailbox is filled to the brim, you have multiple meetings planned for that day and you feel like there’s an endless pile of work left to do. How do you deal with this? In this article, I share my five best tips for preventing feeling overwhelmed at your job. Tip 1: Good preparation goes a long way If you’re like me, and you’re bound to forget everything that you don’t write down, there’s one simple solution: make a list! Preferably, you make one list before the weekend, going on…
How to plan your first vacation with your partner
A first vacation with a new partner is often exciting, but can also cause you stress and worry. Especially if you both have different vacation preferences, and activity levels and if both of your past vacations differed much. In this article, I will give you the best advice on how to plan your first vacation with your partner. This article answers the following questions: Don’t wait too long to plan ahead Before you even start planning the first vacation, it’s important to remember that you shouldn’t wait too long with this. Say, you both have a week off in February. My advice would be to start discussing possible vacation plans as…
