How do you not feel lonely when you live alone?
When I moved out of my parent’s house, I thought living alone would be great. No more queueing for the bathroom, choosing what I have for dinner every evening, coming home whenever I want to. Even though I have always valued my alone time and need it to energize, I was surprised to feel lonely. In this article, I share my best advice on not feeling lonely when you live alone. Tip 1: Make your home feel like home When I moved out, I was still a student and didn’t have an endless budget to buy fancy furniture or kitchen appliances. Still, you don’t need a well-stocked bank account to…
5 good first-date ideas and 5 ideas to avoid
Planning a first date can be a daunting task. Chances are you don’t know your date that well yet, so what are good possible date ideas where you can get to know each other better and avoid awkward silences? In this article, I will list 5 date ideas you should avoid and the best 5 date ideas you can replace them with. Avoid: Walk in the park, replace with: Picnic in the park Why you shouldn’t go for walks in the park: Why a picnic in the park makes for a better date idea: Avoid: Bowling, replace with: Minigolf Reasons why bowling is a bad idea: Why you should opt…
How to be happier and more satisfied with your job?
No matter how much you like your job, there will be times when you wake up in the morning and don’t feel like going to work. As an overthinker, you might struggle with overthinking before, after or even during work hours. Is this really what I want to do, aren’t there any better jobs out there, what if I miss out on prospects by working here? In this article, I will advise how you can be happier and more satisfied with your current job and deal with overthinking. Tip 1: Focus on quick wins On a day-to-day basis, you might feel like you can’t see the forest for the trees.…
How to be more kind to yourself and others
As an overthinker, it can be tempting to overthink your actions and those of others continuously. I have read the advice many times to be more kind to yourself, but how does that work exactly? How do you practice kindness? In this article, I will give practical advice on how to be more kind to yourself and others. Acknowledge the good things you do When I talked to a therapist once, they said that I might have low self-esteem. My first thought was: why? Me? I don’t have low self-esteem! I can say no to people, I don’t cry myself to sleep every night, and I can be a bit…
What to do when you’re afraid of falling out of love?
Falling in love can be one of your life’s most exhilarating, exciting and terrifying experiences. Countless love songs have been written about the rollercoaster ride of emotions, worries and daydreams you go through when you’re falling in love. Not just crushing, but, irrevocably, falling for someone can feel the most vulnerable and naked ever. When you end up together with that person, sail smoothly through the early stages of dating and finally make the relationship official, everything should be perfect. But why doesn’t it feel like that? Why do you still feel afraid now that you have everything you ever wanted? In this article, I will tell you how to…
How do I handle dating when I have anxiety? 5 tips to make dating easier
Dating can be difficult when you’re easily anxious. It’s new and uncertain and there are no clear rules. How do you prevent overthinking and making yourself crazy? In this article, I share some advice that helped me during the dating process. 1 Focus on having fun Especially in the beginning stages of dating someone, everything can be nerve-wracking. From swiping right on someone and waiting for a match to waiting for a reply to your message, to planning a first date. When you meet someone you don’t know that well, it can be difficult to know what to expect. I know it’s easier said than done, but try to relax,…
How you can decide not to be ghosted, ever
We’ve all been there: you’re texting with someone, the conversation is fun, you send a response, and suddenly, radio silence. An hour goes by, two hours, a day… how long will it last? You’re telling yourself it’s not that big of a deal, that you’re not going to check your phone every second yet you never lose your phone out of sight, immediately jumping up when you (think you) hear your phone buzz. So, here’s the tea There are a lot of ways to start here, but first things first, you’re not being ghosted in the following situations: This article specifically applies to the situation where you met someone through…
How to balance your energy as an introvert in a relationship
Being an introvert in a relationship, especially when your partner isn’t an introvert, can be difficult to preserve and balance your energy. For introverts, social interactions cost energy. Although my energy runs out faster when talking to people I’m not close to (colleagues, acquaintances), it still costs me energy to talk to loved ones. In this article, I will advise on how to balance your energy as an introvert in a relationship. Let your partner know you’re an introvert — and what it means to you First of all, it’s important that your partner knows that you’re an introvert. Maybe you have already discussed this on dates, but even then it’s important…
Why are the people that aren’t my type interested in me?
When you are actively dating, it’s always a challenge to find the right match. Although some people have trouble getting matches at all, others may experience the opposite problem: the people that are interested in them, aren’t their type or what they’re looking for. In this article, I will share five possible reasons why you’re not into the people that are interested in you, and what you can do about it. Reason 1: They only look at the surface Say you meet someone new at a party. They seem nice to talk to, and you have a brief chat in which you both exchange pleasantries. You think it was just…
How do you deal with office politics as an overthinker?
Office politics can be one of the most challenging things about work. This can be especially hard for overthinkers. There’s often not enough time to come up with the right responses, first impressions matter the most and people often don’t say what they mean. In this article, I will give you tips on how to keep your head above the water as an overthinker, by dealing with office politics the right way. Tip 1: Quantity over quality In the workplace, it’s important to remember that in the end, your colleagues are not your friends. Almost everyone would say all the cliche phrases if a colleague left, for another job, retirement…
