What to do if you don’t have any big dreams in life?
When we’re young, we often have big dreams as children. I still have an old friendship book from primary school, one of the questions was what your dream was for the future. Every kid had a dream back then, they wanted to become a firefighter, a pilot, a nurse or a mother. I wanted to become a writer. But as I got older, I realized that the big dreams that I used to have, I don’t have any longer. Adult life is much less exciting than I thought it would be, and all the freedoms you have as an adult also bring many responsibilities. In this article, I will advise…
How to meet your partner’s family for the first time
Meeting your partner’s family is usually a significant step in your relationship. Maybe you’re nervous about how you should act or how you should give them the best impression of you. In this blog, I will advise you on how you can make meeting your partner’s family as easy and comfortable as possible, so you can be the best version of yourself. Tip 1: Keep it small the first time If your partner happens to have a large family with many siblings, you can also choose not to meet everyone at once. You can discuss with your partner that you both only meet each other’s parents the first time, or…
5 reasons why it didn’t work out after a perfect date
So, you finally decided on a date with that cute person from a dating app, work, or school. You go out for coffee, drinks, or a walk in the park, and everything runs smoothly. The conversation flows, with no awkward silences, and plenty of gazing into each other’s eyes, and by the end of the date, you can’t wait to see them again. And then… they sent a text, it’s done. What happened? Reason 1: They didn’t feel physical attraction Ouch! If you watch many dating shows as I do, this is one of the most awkward rejections someone can receive on national television. But rest assured, most people in…
4 practical tips to be productive at work without overthinking
No matter what your exact job title or work responsibilities are, productivity, speed and accuracy are often at least greatly appreciated or necessary. As an overthinker, it can be difficult to prevent your thoughts from getting in the way of doing your job. Maybe you spend half your work day pondering that one mistake you made, or if you said the right thing during one of your meetings. Maybe you are deathly afraid of making mistakes so you work slower than your colleagues, or you procrastinate all difficult tasks. In this blog article, I will give you four practical tips on how to prevent your overthinking from getting in the…
How to reduce overthinking work when the workday is done
From when I started my first part-time job at fifteen years old, I could spend nights awake overthinking my work. I wondered whether I made a mistake somewhere if people would notice, and if it might have horrible consequences that I would be forced to face the next morning or the next week. Thankfully, these days my overthinking about work isn’t as bad as it was back then, but I still need to actively prevent myself from re-entering that negative spiral. In this article, you’ll read tips and advice on how to reduce your overthinking when the workday is over. Tip 1: Consciously end the workday When I finish working,…
How to deal with unwanted advances when you’re in a relationship in 5 steps
When you’re in a happy relationship, the last thing you want is unwanted attention from others. Sometimes, people still hit on you, despite knowing that you’re not interested because you already have a partner. In this article, you will read advice on how to best avoid awkward situations and if they arise, how to deal with them. Step 1: Be clear that you have a partner The most straightforward way to avoid any misunderstandings, it’s best to mention that you’re in a relationship as soon as possible. Try to incorporate this statement as a natural part of the conversation, most people find it offensive or pretentious if you mention…
How to balance your time when you’re an introvert
As an introvert, I know all about the struggles of balancing your energy. At work, school or almost anywhere else, the world seems dominated by extroverts who thrive in busy, loud, competitive environments. As an introvert, it’s not that I don’t like showing interest in others or spending time with friends and family, it’s just that it takes a lot of energy for me. When I have to balance my time with work, school, taking care of the house, sports and keeping in touch with my social circle, it can be quite taxing. In this article, I will advise on how to balance your energy as an introvert. Accept the…
How do I deal with dating and texting?
Texting, it’s often a struggle when you’re dating someone. How much is too much, how can you show you’re interested and don’t come across as too eager or available? It’s often a fine line between giving the other person space or seeming careless. In this article, I’ll advise you on how to handle texting when you’re dating someone. Before the date When you haven’t met yet, or haven’t had your first date yet, it might be tempting to continue talking through text. My advice is: don’t do it. It’s easy to create an image of someone in your head when you’ve never met that person. It’s also nice to have…
What is lucid dreaming and how to prevent it?
Lucid dreaming: the internet is filled with articles on how to induce lucid dreaming, or learn how to remember your dreams. Lucid dreaming is often researched, but not much is known about it. In this article, I will explain what lucid dreaming is and what you can do about it, based on my own experiences. I will answer questions such as: Please note: the contents of this article are based on my own research and personal experiences with lucid dreaming. If you experience mental health issues because of lucid dreaming, please consult a licensed psychologist or doctor. What are lucid dreams? In research, many definitions of lucid dreaming are used.…
How to set boundaries with your partner
Boundaries in a relationship, what are they, when are they reasonable and how do you discuss them with your partner? What do you do if you both disagree about a certain boundary, for example concerning planning a vacation together? In this article, I will give practical advice on how to deal with these questions regarding boundaries in a relationship. What are boundaries? A boundary is commonly described as “the limit of what someone considers to be acceptable behaviour” (source). Important features of boundaries are: So, why are boundaries important in relationships? First of all, everyone has boundaries. There are common boundaries, such as a no-cheating rule in monogamous relationships (although,…
